well *some* of the above did mention anxiety could be a cause? As someone with an anxiety issue YES giving an answer can take a huge amount of effort for me and I know I'm far from the only one. I'm not ruling out rudeness, for sure. But it'd be great if you could recognize that what is a small amount of effort for someone might be a large amount of effort for another, especially when anxiety as a potential cause was already mentioned - for example by saying "that they're probably incredibly rude people" or even "they're acting incredibly rude".
So, they had no problem to initiate contact to buy something, but after that suddenly developed a case of anxiety and couldn't tell the seller that they no longer wanted the thing. Well, that's one possibility, but a very very tiny one.
It's not a matter of "developing a case of" anxiety like you didn't have anxiety and now you do - anxiety doesn't manifest itself the same way all the time. Other life issues affect it (for example a loved one went to hospital for a while and caused more stress) as well as sometimes people can think they're up for something and then it isn't possible to complete.
(Also it's more like "they could initiate contact to buy something". You have no idea whether or not it was "no problem" to do so.)
...but if they knew they had anxiety and are likely to flake, why on earth deliberately set up a situation where they're going to flake? THat's, again, just plain inconsiderate. Why not at least say in the first message that they might not be able to get back to the other person (no need to specify reason) so if they don't hear from them in x days, feel free to sell to someone else. I mean, it's pretty clear that OP's contacts didn't do this, or they wouldn't have been left hanging like that.
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(Anonymous) 2016-02-24 08:56 am (UTC)(link)(Also it's more like "they could initiate contact to buy something". You have no idea whether or not it was "no problem" to do so.)
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(Anonymous) 2016-02-24 10:32 am (UTC)(link)Cool motive, still rude.