yeah, that thought crossed my mind once or twice- she's admitted to pretending to be a guy on dating sites and 'breaking girls' hearts' (I seriously doubt it, but whatever boosts her ego)
thinking about the weird shit she's done helps me get over her SO much
You're not alone, anon! I once let a girl like that lead me on for over a year (I'm also a girl, btw). She was constantly trying to play me against her boyfriend (she told him she had feelings for me). She was always claiming they were on the verge of breaking up. She was always telling me how perfect I was. We went out on "dates" all the time, even away on some trips together, and nothing ever happened. When she did eventually dump the bf, she found a new guy right away. I washed my hands of her and it was hard at first, but I know now that I made the right choice. If someone actually wants to be with you, they won't lead you on or try to make you jealous. Those people are game-players who like attention. Don't give it to them. (And yes, I do feel like an asshole now, years later, for even getting involved with a girl who had a boyfriend in the first place.)
yes, please keep remembering all the weird behaviour that if it were done by anyone else, you would seriously not like it or be attracted to them. it was the number 1 way i was able to get over some past relationships/crushes on people (its not foolproof, but it helps so much). it takes a while to get to that point, but remembering "oh fuck X did Y ... that was so fucked up why did they do that??? that's not okay" was really the key for me to realizing that this person i liked was in fact kind of a really shitty human being.
and honestly, i would be really skeeved out by someone who went around pretending to be someone they are not JUST to make people feel bad? bc that's what she was doing. and its not okay.
i hope you are able to move on and find someone who is nice for you, nonny. <3 you deserve it!
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(Anonymous) 2015-06-30 03:03 am (UTC)(link)thinking about the weird shit she's done helps me get over her SO much
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(Anonymous) 2015-07-01 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)yes, please keep remembering all the weird behaviour that if it were done by anyone else, you would seriously not like it or be attracted to them. it was the number 1 way i was able to get over some past relationships/crushes on people (its not foolproof, but it helps so much). it takes a while to get to that point, but remembering "oh fuck X did Y ... that was so fucked up why did they do that??? that's not okay" was really the key for me to realizing that this person i liked was in fact kind of a really shitty human being.
and honestly, i would be really skeeved out by someone who went around pretending to be someone they are not JUST to make people feel bad? bc that's what she was doing. and its not okay.
i hope you are able to move on and find someone who is nice for you, nonny. <3 you deserve it!