I hope it's alright to ask about that here, but I'm in no other international community, soo I thought I give it a shot...
I'm from Europe and we have quite a lot of TV shows and movies from the USA in my country. And I've always wondered about some reoccurring scenes, which seem so unrealistic. I assume most is some sort of hyperbole, but I'm wondering if they have an element of truth in them?
What I am thinking about is mainly: - School bullies who knock others around and collect their money (and in some movies teachers actually being okay with that) - Getting the head dunked into the toilet - Jocks being the most popular guys at school - Science crafting contests where everyone builds a volcano - Parents going to school of their kids to present their job
And also: - Existence of THE most beautiful girl/boy at school - Reading books out loud in English/literature class for the majority of the time - Everyone dissects a frog in school
Are schools in the USA in some ways like their movie counterparts? Are American movie makers only copying each other and don't care about the reality?
I have been on the hunt for years now for a good pair that's not like 25-30 bucks for ONE PAIR/INDIVIDUAL! Everything I've been pulling up was either expensive, ugly af weirdness (i dont know how to describe it any other way) or plated with toxic shit I don't want to ingest...bitch no thank you.
I never thought to check on Etsy, since I keep forgetting it's even a thing (never purchased from there so this is my first time. Woo me). So I managed to find some stainless steel 12mm, for $1 each ring, outside of tax. You better believe I bought some of those suckers. I just hope the clasps don't hurt too much on my outer lip. Only downside to these is that there's not a ball like I was hoping to find-- of which seems impossible to find a faux one WITH the ball in it btw. Fingers crossed, even though the reviews on them were fantastic. Should get them pretty quick too since the lady selling them is pretty close by. I know its wishful thinking though ;)
A friend of mine has been ignoring my messages to him for, like, a week now so I teasingly messaged him that my feelings were hurt (well, only partially teasing, I was concerned and anxiety makes me fear that people are going to cut me out of their lives anyway). He replied that his cat had just died on Friday and now I just feel like a colossal asshole and want to die.
Okay I just need a place to vent and my pour my feelings...
I'm getting married in May, not too long from now. My first cousin, that has already been married by law for 2 years, ran off ith her now husband and got married in secret. Now they're having an official wedding in Mexio this august, 2ish years later. My grandparents, from my father's side and my cousin's, are having their flight paid for to go there.
Now, this is where this all starts to piss me off and makes me heart ache. My family told them the date and my grandmother kinda grumbled "why couldn't it be in July, when we come up for vacation and come to stay at a condo?". They live probably 30 hours away from us...they have no issue driving up to go to their condo, but she complains about my wedding date. A WEDDING THAT IS FRESH AND A FIRST FOR ME, COMPARED TO MY COUSIN THAT HAS ALREADY BEEN MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS...What...what the absolute fuck... Why can't they just stay at their condo in May instead? Why can't you make an exception for me? You guys also loved me so dearly all of your life, so why are you willing to for her and not me? I don't feel like they'll even come...not to mention my cousin had a baby recently and they're so focused on her too. I didn't even get a birthday card this year like I always do, it's petty I know...but that means something to me and then you throw this wedding issue on top...I feel forgotten and not cared about I guess?
What makes this even more sad is that my cousin, on their side btw, is a 1.5k-3k photographer that saidfor family pics it's pay what you can. He only asks that we offer him a place to stay and cover gas. I've never met this man in my life and he's willing to make that 35+ hour trip at a massive loss in profit...but he was excited to come down and meet me with his wife... We can't afford a plane ticket, so the best we can do is gas. My other grandparents, from my mother's side, are in much worse health condition yet they are still coming up, no matter what.
I just don't know guys, it pisses me off and I'm so hurt over this, I can't even describe how hurt I feel. I haven't ever been married yet and I see my cousin's "wedding" as more of a renewing of the vows type of deal...there's a difference. Why can she go to hers happily and then complain about mine? That's not fair. My aunt's kids have always been favorites my parents said...I'm trying hard not to be angry. Am I just being petty?
I exhibit some of the symptoms and it's really stressing me out, but I'm not sure whether I should go to a doctor
if anyone has experience with them, can I tell you about the symptoms I'm showing, and maybe you can tell me whether or not it's likely I do have them? :(
I've been friends with her since last year (let's call her A), she's alright but she's really bitchy/paggro sometimes. When I was telling a story to another friend, A just rolled her eyes and said (to that friend) "It's ok, just endure it".
Anyway, we were having a class discussion, and she brought up a talking point. I thought about it for a while, and politely refuted it, at which point another classmate agreed with me. I thought everything was ok, until A suddenly went "You don't have to be offended, you know?"
I was obviously really ??? because I hadn't been offended, and I told her as much, leading to her getting upset and accusing both me and the other girl of being offended. Like. I literally didn't attack her in any way, just suggested a reword of her point.
Anyway, since then she's been really rude. When the teacher asked us if we were working as a trio she said "yeah" then muttered "supposedly" under her breath. Like WHAT is your problem? YOU'RE the one who had a problem with me when the other girl and I both thought we were having a pleasant discussion. (For the record, what she said was "Gender roles are absolutely necessary in today's society" which ofc is really dumb, but let's not get into that here)
There was also group work for that same class, and I assumed I was working with the two of them. The other girl is quite friendly with me and we're even friends on Steam, so I thought it would be fine. But so far I haven't received a Gdocs invitation as I usually would, so I'm checking with the other girl if they already started without me.
Honestly, if it turns out I was being left out on purpose, I'm seriously just going to tell the form teacher. My class is generally pretty friendly, I haven't encountered anything this petty in a long time. This girl is just horrible - repeatedly insisted gay people can choose their sexuality, said depressed people should just choose to be happy (I happen to be both gay AND depressed), etc.
Sorry for the rant, I'm just sick of shitty humans.
I almost forgot I got in on the free month trial of CBS All Access so I'm finally all caught up on all the current episodes of DISC. And I feel like screaming because it's so good???? Like, no, it's nothing like TOS and I'm completely okay with that because it's so character driven like my favorite Trek- DS9.
I get why some fans of older Trek don't like it, but I feel like this is Star Trek through and through. And I, just, love all the little plot twists that have been revealed so far??? It's just so great!!!
Ever since I was little I've been a night owl. But over the past few years it's gotten really bad. I'm not able to sleep before 2ish at night. Not to mention how awful it is when I gotta be up at 6am every Sunday, because I can't get to bed until 4am on those days. It's became such a bad habit and I can't break out of it, when I try to i get muscle spasms and jerk awake with an immediate panic attack. I've tried melatonin, valerian root and magnesium oil on my feet and they kiiinda help. Magnesium oil and an essential oil diffuser are what works better though compared to the other two.
I know my body clearly needs more, because even 8+ isn't enough At times. But it's Sunday today and yet again I'm so beyond sleep deprived from the 2 hours of sleep, I can't stand it anymore. It makes my heart palpitations and anxiety go nuts, outside of typical other sleep deprivation symptoms. Im sure I'll be able to break free from this torment eventually, hopefully sooner than i think. So tonight I'm probably gonna take a warm bath, once I get home, after an exhausingly busy Sunday and pray to god that it helps. Maybe it'll lower my stress. Lavender and Epsom salt bath, here I come baby :')
Any other nonnies with possible sleep issues can vent here too if you want, shit is annoying lmao.
I started working out lately to stave off my depression and it's going well, however I'm worried about putting on too much weight.
I'm underweight due to being naturally skinny (46.5kg right now and it was like 42kg before), so I'd like to hit maybe 55kg, which would put me out of the "Underweight" BMI zone.
However, I'm worried about losing my slender build (which I very much like) as I bulk up. Any tips? I'm already eating much more than usual and getting hungry all the time. Then again my skinniness could be more due to bone structure (I have the smallest wrists of anyone I know), but still
So a little tmi but I started yesterday and my cycle has gotten heavy at day 2 (today). Well since yesterday I have been dizzy and very lightheaded with some nausea too constantly almost too. Laying down doesn't help either. I took menstrual meds and it hasn't helped.
I don't know if it's my iron levels dropping or panic attack. I do the same with a panic attack, and my cycle makes it spike every now and then during the year. But I'm not sure what to do and because if that it also makes my anxiety spike. I hate being a woman around this tims...this is a very rare thing for me to get like this but still
I've been doing well and holding off my depression for a month since school started by doing my work, studying hard, working out, eating better, being nicer to people.
My parents undid all of that work last night when they yelled at me again for hours.
I didn't even feel like going to school today so I didn't but it makes me feel more shit because I hate missing school and it makes me feel guilty.
I hate my parents. They've been doing this for years. When I was 5 I remember I had a high fever or something like that. My mom locked me in a dark room so she could watch TV in peace without having to listen to my crying. I still am afraid of the dark.
I'm going to kill myself. What's the point of making progress if it gets erased so quick. I feel pointless
I'm kinda pissed so I'm venting here. Sorry for long post.
For context, I'm overweight and am trying to lose weight and get fit because I'm embarrassed of being winded and tired all the time. I'm doing this for myself and no one is affecting my choice. I'm happy with my appearance and idgaf if I lose my fat rolls. I'm only doing this so I can go outdoors and not be exhausted easily. Basically I am aware that I am living an unhealthy lifestyle right now and want to improve on that.
I also have a boyfriend who says he loves me how I am now and will support my choices. Yesterday and today, however, he implied that while he loves me now, he wouldn't be happy if I gained weight. He implied he'd dump me if I gained more weight and semi-chastised me for not trying to lose weight right now. We're long distance and I don't relay to him all the gross sweaty details of myself on a thread mill and the boring healthy food I eat. Once a week I'll treat myself to junk food and that's what I tell him about. It's food I don't normally eat so it's nice to treat myself. I guess thats how he got the idea that I only eat junk food and unhealthy snacks?
He likes going hiking here and there so I imagine that's what worries him? Yesterday I joked around that "I'd walk around the city with him trying different foods since I'm a fatass" and he said that was gross. ?????
He's a great guy so this all really threw me off. It's making me be self conscious around him. It feels like if I lose weight then I'd be giving him what he wants and it's seriously messing with the motivation I have to get fit.
So my parents, my sibling and I went out to eat with a friend of ours and my dad was going off about something and trying to look cool and hip, thing is the thing he was mentioning isn't what he thinks it is or means. I of course jokingly, while I cringed, told him that wasn't what it was and he wanted me to explain. I tell him to just look it up and it's nothing something /i/ can really explain but just /know/...I'm a not able to explaining way. He keeps going on aboutbit for a good 10 minutes and then I try to move on because I figured we were done and I was actually getting flustered [but I already was to begin with, most of tonight]. He keeps staring at me and says hes still just waiting for an answer. I get more flustered cause I want him to just drop it at this point, then they just make fun of me getting flustered...again, I'm front of our newish friend. Then over a while he said "okay special snowflake", that has negative and derogatory meaning...I view that term as being called retarded or stupid. Of course I'm angry because he won't shut up, I'm embarrassed because I'm flustered and they're making fun of me, when I DON'T find it funny and told them to shut up, I storm out of the restaurant because I'm being emotional and teary. I'm in the car, outside and alone at 10:30, and they're still cutting up and laughing. My sibling told me they just joked " she'd probably get hit" [aka a car] and "or she'd could get picked up"...what the duck would you say and think if that actually did happen? That's, that's, that's funny?? Wow...I don't even know what to say. These are the same parents who have called me a "Typical millennial" sarcastically once when I pissed them off. I didn't go back in because I was embarrassed because of them and because I was flustered and stormed out. Then they hop in the car and she does a 360 in attitude and bitches at me for not getting my stuff [i forgot it and didn't want to go in again for reasons listed]. It just feels so two-faced, they act happy, silly and like everything is kinda great and then it just changes behind scenes. But I guess our friend didn't really laugh at the being hit or picked up "jokes", wonder what they thought of this lovely exchange. We get home, I avoid them, and I guess she just said something to my father about how stupid it was with me being pissed off or something.
It's partially petty, but I realize it was and own up to my side. So it's not like I'm blind to it, but this shit still isn't cool. Sorry for the babbling rant, I'm just a mix of emotions right now and it doesn't help that today my depression and anxiety has been horrible all day since I woke up...So all this doesn't help to say the least
@ my fellow retail workers, how many times y'all ever had a customer you had the power and capability to help, even if it technically broke company policy, but decided not to because the customer was acting like an absolute, entitled jackass about it?
I'm one of those people that will bend over backwards to help someone, even bending certain rules, if they're polite/understanding about it, so long as it is in my power to do so. But if you're giving me or my coworkers attitude right from the get-go? Nah son. I'm following corporate policy to the letter. And I'm going to do it as slowly and politely as possible.
me: gosh i'm so lonely and want to make friends me, a dumb bitch: but why do i bother when no one wants to stay my friend? they'll get to know me and then start to hate me because i'm a terrible person. me, making a friend: wow!!!! friendship sure is great!!!! me, saying something that makes me look desperate and/or clingy to said friend: shit i done fucked up i can never talk to them again me, an anxious dumb bitch who is apparently determined to ruin friendships: they wouldn't want to talk to me again anyway and i can't blame them. time to distance myself until they forget about me! me, a dumb bitch that hasn't learned anything: gosh i'm so lonely-
I stopped visiting a couple of forums mostly so I can guarantee avoiding spoilers and it was hard at first but I'm starting to realize how much I might have visited only out of habit. I still feel the reflex to check but not really from interest, just weird stress about falling behind wtf.
My mom called me to let me know my grandma broke her back- well, fractured a vertebrae in a fall, so not as serious. But while they were doing the cat scans to see how bad the damage was, they noticed an abnormal growth on one of her ovaries. They need to do more testing to find out if it's a benign cyst or if it's cancerous so I'm trying not to worry about it too much but like...
My grandma is turning 87 this year. And while she's not in terrible health, she's definitely not in good enough health to undergo chemo. And I don't know if they'd be able to surgically remove it if it is malignant.
I've been accepting of the fact that my grandma is going to die one day because, you know, people don't live forever and her health has been steadily declining over the past couple years. But I didn't expect to be this scared over the prospect of her dying. Maybe it's because I lost my dad to lung cancer and the idea of losing another relative to cancer is what's killing me? I don't know. I'm just scared.
nonnies, how do you deal with online friends ghosting you?
I have(had?) a friend who I've been in daily communication with for the better part of a year and I was starting to think we were close but I've gotten maybe 4-6 messages from them in the past month - compared to daily/multiple times a day - and it's just... slowly eating away at me...
I know they're still online and active because I see them chatting with other people on FR/tumblr (the latter of which I only checked because I was wondering if they were okay) so I can't help but wonder if there was something I did to hurt/offend them... but I don't have the slightest idea of what I did that could have offended them at all, let alone enough to drop me like this :\
They always seemed like such a calm, open-minded person so I'm worried I did something that upset them and they're just too nice/nervous to call me out on it?
I don't think they read AR but a, if by some chance you're reading this - I don't know what I did but I'm really sorry I upset you. you were my best friend, i miss you lots, and at the very least i hope you're okay ;-; -e
i've been friends with this girl for 6 years (classmates), we have some common interests and she's one of the... not many people I actually care about irl.
everything was ok until I developed a crush on her a few months ago and I kind of regret it. I have no clue how it happened.
lemme make this clear, I don't mind being friends with her. I would actually be really fucking sad if I lost a decent friendship over a crush. Neither do I care about some imaginary "friendzone"
But I'm not even sure if she cares about me as a friend?
I've become more sensitive to this lately bc of my feelings lol. we hang out often, after a lecture or w/e. Normal friend stuff. I find it easy to talk to her, but I wonder if I'm not a very good listener. sometimes when she's ranting about philosophy (not my area of expertise) she stops and goes "yeah, I'm a boring person, I know" and I just feel...bad? I mean I do discuss other topics with her like Blade Runner (kickass film btw), GoT, literature etc but. I feel as though she finds me boring bc I'm not into that highbrow stuff she likes, hardcore poetry (she's a great writer), and Marxism or whatever.
I just...I don't fucking know.
oh and she's kinda mean to me sometimes and I literally can't tell if it's banter or not. I mean, I do banter with my other friends a lot but ultimately we care about one another and that forms the backdrop of our teasing. But she... goes and writes stuff like "[my name] is a waste of space", lowkey insults my intelligence when I tell her I topped my class for a term paper, randomly tells me "you probably suck", etc. I mean she literally chucked ice cubes at me over an enthusiastic discussion about Marvel/DC.
Like I literally have no fucking idea if she wants to be my friend or she just talks to me because I happen to be there???
I think the nicest thing she's ever said to me is when I told her I was planning to kill myself and she went "I don't want you to die" and offered to keep me company the next day so that "you can do something fun before you die". And sometimes when I text her she just doesn't reply and my mutual friend tells me "oh, she's just forgetful" but I feel like she probably just doesn't find me interesting. Idk lol thanks for letting me vent
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-20 12:45 am (UTC)(link)college tips for freshmen?
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-21 01:37 pm (UTC)(link)I'm from Europe and we have quite a lot of TV shows and movies from the USA in my country. And I've always wondered about some reoccurring scenes, which seem so unrealistic. I assume most is some sort of hyperbole, but I'm wondering if they have an element of truth in them?
What I am thinking about is mainly:
- School bullies who knock others around and collect their money (and in some movies teachers actually being okay with that)
- Getting the head dunked into the toilet
- Jocks being the most popular guys at school
- Science crafting contests where everyone builds a volcano
- Parents going to school of their kids to present their job
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- Existence of THE most beautiful girl/boy at school
- Reading books out loud in English/literature class for the majority of the time
- Everyone dissects a frog in school
Are schools in the USA in some ways like their movie counterparts? Are American movie makers only copying each other and don't care about the reality?
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-22 12:59 am (UTC)(link)Finally found some decent faux lip rings
(Anonymous) 2018-01-22 07:12 am (UTC)(link)I never thought to check on Etsy, since I keep forgetting it's even a thing (never purchased from there so this is my first time. Woo me). So I managed to find some stainless steel 12mm, for $1 each ring, outside of tax. You better believe I bought some of those suckers. I just hope the clasps don't hurt too much on my outer lip. Only downside to these is that there's not a ball like I was hoping to find-- of which seems impossible to find a faux one WITH the ball in it btw. Fingers crossed, even though the reviews on them were fantastic. Should get them pretty quick too since the lady selling them is pretty close by. I know its wishful thinking though ;)
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-24 09:37 pm (UTC)(link)I'm getting married in May, not too long from now. My first cousin, that has already been married by law for 2 years, ran off ith her now husband and got married in secret. Now they're having an official wedding in Mexio this august, 2ish years later. My grandparents, from my father's side and my cousin's, are having their flight paid for to go there.
Now, this is where this all starts to piss me off and makes me heart ache. My family told them the date and my grandmother kinda grumbled "why couldn't it be in July, when we come up for vacation and come to stay at a condo?". They live probably 30 hours away from us...they have no issue driving up to go to their condo, but she complains about my wedding date. A WEDDING THAT IS FRESH AND A FIRST FOR ME, COMPARED TO MY COUSIN THAT HAS ALREADY BEEN MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS...What...what the absolute fuck... Why can't they just stay at their condo in May instead? Why can't you make an exception for me? You guys also loved me so dearly all of your life, so why are you willing to for her and not me? I don't feel like they'll even come...not to mention my cousin had a baby recently and they're so focused on her too. I didn't even get a birthday card this year like I always do, it's petty I know...but that means something to me and then you throw this wedding issue on top...I feel forgotten and not cared about I guess?
What makes this even more sad is that my cousin, on their side btw, is a 1.5k-3k photographer that saidfor family pics it's pay what you can. He only asks that we offer him a place to stay and cover gas. I've never met this man in my life and he's willing to make that 35+ hour trip at a massive loss in profit...but he was excited to come down and meet me with his wife... We can't afford a plane ticket, so the best we can do is gas. My other grandparents, from my mother's side, are in much worse health condition yet they are still coming up, no matter what.
I just don't know guys, it pisses me off and I'm so hurt over this, I can't even describe how hurt I feel. I haven't ever been married yet and I see my cousin's "wedding" as more of a renewing of the vows type of deal...there's a difference. Why can she go to hers happily and then complain about mine? That's not fair. My aunt's kids have always been favorites my parents said...I'm trying hard not to be angry. Am I just being petty?
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-25 06:51 pm (UTC)(link)Because in my experience that tends to mean they're just around a lot of assholes.
And like...it costs you $0 to be a nice person. And yes, I see the irony of posting this on an anon forum.
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-28 02:08 pm (UTC)(link)I've been friends with her since last year (let's call her A), she's alright but she's really bitchy/paggro sometimes. When I was telling a story to another friend, A just rolled her eyes and said (to that friend) "It's ok, just endure it".
Anyway, we were having a class discussion, and she brought up a talking point. I thought about it for a while, and politely refuted it, at which point another classmate agreed with me. I thought everything was ok, until A suddenly went "You don't have to be offended, you know?"
I was obviously really ??? because I hadn't been offended, and I told her as much, leading to her getting upset and accusing both me and the other girl of being offended. Like. I literally didn't attack her in any way, just suggested a reword of her point.
Anyway, since then she's been really rude. When the teacher asked us if we were working as a trio she said "yeah" then muttered "supposedly" under her breath. Like WHAT is your problem? YOU'RE the one who had a problem with me when the other girl and I both thought we were having a pleasant discussion. (For the record, what she said was "Gender roles are absolutely necessary in today's society" which ofc is really dumb, but let's not get into that here)
There was also group work for that same class, and I assumed I was working with the two of them. The other girl is quite friendly with me and we're even friends on Steam, so I thought it would be fine. But so far I haven't received a Gdocs invitation as I usually would, so I'm checking with the other girl if they already started without me.
Honestly, if it turns out I was being left out on purpose, I'm seriously just going to tell the form teacher. My class is generally pretty friendly, I haven't encountered anything this petty in a long time. This girl is just horrible - repeatedly insisted gay people can choose their sexuality, said depressed people should just choose to be happy (I happen to be both gay AND depressed), etc.
Sorry for the rant, I'm just sick of shitty humans.
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-28 07:50 pm (UTC)(link)I get why some fans of older Trek don't like it, but I feel like this is Star Trek through and through. And I, just, love all the little plot twists that have been revealed so far??? It's just so great!!!
Sleep problems (I just need to vent)
(Anonymous) 2018-01-28 11:29 pm (UTC)(link)I know my body clearly needs more, because even 8+ isn't enough At times. But it's Sunday today and yet again I'm so beyond sleep deprived from the 2 hours of sleep, I can't stand it anymore. It makes my heart palpitations and anxiety go nuts, outside of typical other sleep deprivation symptoms. Im sure I'll be able to break free from this torment eventually, hopefully sooner than i think. So tonight I'm probably gonna take a warm bath, once I get home, after an exhausingly busy Sunday and pray to god that it helps. Maybe it'll lower my stress. Lavender and Epsom salt bath, here I come baby :')
Any other nonnies with possible sleep issues can vent here too if you want, shit is annoying lmao.
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(Anonymous) 2018-01-30 10:49 am (UTC)(link)I'm underweight due to being naturally skinny (46.5kg right now and it was like 42kg before), so I'd like to hit maybe 55kg, which would put me out of the "Underweight" BMI zone.
However, I'm worried about losing my slender build (which I very much like) as I bulk up. Any tips? I'm already eating much more than usual and getting hungry all the time. Then again my skinniness could be more due to bone structure (I have the smallest wrists of anyone I know), but still
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-01 11:27 pm (UTC)(link)I don't know if it's my iron levels dropping or panic attack. I do the same with a panic attack, and my cycle makes it spike every now and then during the year. But I'm not sure what to do and because if that it also makes my anxiety spike. I hate being a woman around this tims...this is a very rare thing for me to get like this but still
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-02 04:15 am (UTC)(link)My parents undid all of that work last night when they yelled at me again for hours.
I didn't even feel like going to school today so I didn't but it makes me feel more shit because I hate missing school and it makes me feel guilty.
I hate my parents. They've been doing this for years. When I was 5 I remember I had a high fever or something like that. My mom locked me in a dark room so she could watch TV in peace without having to listen to my crying. I still am afraid of the dark.
I'm going to kill myself. What's the point of making progress if it gets erased so quick. I feel pointless
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-04 12:43 am (UTC)(link)For context, I'm overweight and am trying to lose weight and get fit because I'm embarrassed of being winded and tired all the time. I'm doing this for myself and no one is affecting my choice. I'm happy with my appearance and idgaf if I lose my fat rolls. I'm only doing this so I can go outdoors and not be exhausted easily. Basically I am aware that I am living an unhealthy lifestyle right now and want to improve on that.
I also have a boyfriend who says he loves me how I am now and will support my choices. Yesterday and today, however, he implied that while he loves me now, he wouldn't be happy if I gained weight. He implied he'd dump me if I gained more weight and semi-chastised me for not trying to lose weight right now. We're long distance and I don't relay to him all the gross sweaty details of myself on a thread mill and the boring healthy food I eat. Once a week I'll treat myself to junk food and that's what I tell him about. It's food I don't normally eat so it's nice to treat myself. I guess thats how he got the idea that I only eat junk food and unhealthy snacks?
He likes going hiking here and there so I imagine that's what worries him? Yesterday I joked around that "I'd walk around the city with him trying different foods since I'm a fatass" and he said that was gross. ?????
He's a great guy so this all really threw me off. It's making me be self conscious around him. It feels like if I lose weight then I'd be giving him what he wants and it's seriously messing with the motivation I have to get fit.
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-08 05:08 am (UTC)(link)It's partially petty, but I realize it was and own up to my side. So it's not like I'm blind to it, but this shit still isn't cool. Sorry for the babbling rant, I'm just a mix of emotions right now and it doesn't help that today my depression and anxiety has been horrible all day since I woke up...So all this doesn't help to say the least
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-09 07:08 am (UTC)(link)anyone else worried they use FR unhealthily as a way to procrastinate
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-12 02:25 am (UTC)(link)I'm one of those people that will bend over backwards to help someone, even bending certain rules, if they're polite/understanding about it, so long as it is in my power to do so. But if you're giving me or my coworkers attitude right from the get-go? Nah son. I'm following corporate policy to the letter. And I'm going to do it as slowly and politely as possible.
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-15 08:54 pm (UTC)(link)me, a dumb bitch: but why do i bother when no one wants to stay my friend? they'll get to know me and then start to hate me because i'm a terrible person.
me, making a friend: wow!!!! friendship sure is great!!!!
me, saying something that makes me look desperate and/or clingy to said friend: shit i done fucked up i can never talk to them again
me, an anxious dumb bitch who is apparently determined to ruin friendships: they wouldn't want to talk to me again anyway and i can't blame them. time to distance myself until they forget about me!
me, a dumb bitch that hasn't learned anything: gosh i'm so lonely-
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-25 01:29 pm (UTC)(link)I still feel the reflex to check but not really from interest, just weird stress about falling behind wtf.
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-27 10:31 am (UTC)(link)i bought some but im scared to use them because they might cause pain/sensitivity
going to the dentist is not an option due to personal reasons
i really hate my yellow teeth a lot (i don't drink, nor smoke, nor drink coffee/tea, and i brush regularly, it's just a genetic thing)
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(Anonymous) 2018-02-27 08:03 pm (UTC)(link)My mom called me to let me know my grandma broke her back- well, fractured a vertebrae in a fall, so not as serious. But while they were doing the cat scans to see how bad the damage was, they noticed an abnormal growth on one of her ovaries. They need to do more testing to find out if it's a benign cyst or if it's cancerous so I'm trying not to worry about it too much but like...
My grandma is turning 87 this year. And while she's not in terrible health, she's definitely not in good enough health to undergo chemo. And I don't know if they'd be able to surgically remove it if it is malignant.
I've been accepting of the fact that my grandma is going to die one day because, you know, people don't live forever and her health has been steadily declining over the past couple years. But I didn't expect to be this scared over the prospect of her dying. Maybe it's because I lost my dad to lung cancer and the idea of losing another relative to cancer is what's killing me? I don't know. I'm just scared.
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(Anonymous) 2018-03-02 12:31 am (UTC)(link)I have(had?) a friend who I've been in daily communication with for the better part of a year and I was starting to think we were close but I've gotten maybe 4-6 messages from them in the past month - compared to daily/multiple times a day - and it's just... slowly eating away at me...
I know they're still online and active because I see them chatting with other people on FR/tumblr (the latter of which I only checked because I was wondering if they were okay) so I can't help but wonder if there was something I did to hurt/offend them... but I don't have the slightest idea of what I did that could have offended them at all, let alone enough to drop me like this :\
They always seemed like such a calm, open-minded person so I'm worried I did something that upset them and they're just too nice/nervous to call me out on it?
I don't think they read AR but a, if by some chance you're reading this - I don't know what I did but I'm really sorry I upset you. you were my best friend, i miss you lots, and at the very least i hope you're okay ;-;
-e
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everything was ok until I developed a crush on her a few months ago and I kind of regret it. I have no clue how it happened.
lemme make this clear, I don't mind being friends with her. I would actually be really fucking sad if I lost a decent friendship over a crush. Neither do I care about some imaginary "friendzone"
But I'm not even sure if she cares about me as a friend?
I've become more sensitive to this lately bc of my feelings lol. we hang out often, after a lecture or w/e. Normal friend stuff. I find it easy to talk to her, but I wonder if I'm not a very good listener. sometimes when she's ranting about philosophy (not my area of expertise) she stops and goes "yeah, I'm a boring person, I know" and I just feel...bad? I mean I do discuss other topics with her like Blade Runner (kickass film btw), GoT, literature etc but. I feel as though she finds me boring bc I'm not into that highbrow stuff she likes, hardcore poetry (she's a great writer), and Marxism or whatever.
I just...I don't fucking know.
oh and she's kinda mean to me sometimes and I literally can't tell if it's banter or not. I mean, I do banter with my other friends a lot but ultimately we care about one another and that forms the backdrop of our teasing. But she... goes and writes stuff like "[my name] is a waste of space", lowkey insults my intelligence when I tell her I topped my class for a term paper, randomly tells me "you probably suck", etc. I mean she literally chucked ice cubes at me over an enthusiastic discussion about Marvel/DC.
Like I literally have no fucking idea if she wants to be my friend or she just talks to me because I happen to be there???
I think the nicest thing she's ever said to me is when I told her I was planning to kill myself and she went "I don't want you to die" and offered to keep me company the next day so that "you can do something fun before you die". And sometimes when I text her she just doesn't reply and my mutual friend tells me "oh, she's just forgetful" but I feel like she probably just doesn't find me interesting. Idk lol thanks for letting me vent
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